mgm... the longer you are in this, the more you will come to see some of these... "things" that are pretty standard in WAS scenarios...
Your W started a conversation with you, that she then told you she didn't want to talk about... so... why did she contact you then?
That's rhetorical.
You engaged her and offered some level of support... that's natural... you care about her and want her to be happy...
The point is, while the convo went OK, the longer we engage in conversation with the WAS, the more opportunity for things to go south. You might find this out the hard way, soon enough.
It's not to say do NOT have convo with them. Rather, be very aware to validate and then get out.
For example:
W: I'm so angry right now.
Me: I understand what that's like. Good night.
It's OK to think there is some reason. Chances are just as good you're wrong of the reason, than you're right of the reason...
In these situations where the WAS is contacting the LBS, I've heard that responding to only half or a third of them can be helpful.
