You are sure wise in your responses. I do feel better and could have felt much better not using the above as excuses....Just got an interesting call from my W. She was with her sister tonight at a concert about an hour an a half from where she lives. She called and asked me if I would talk with her while she drives these country roads. I said yes...we had a very pleasant chat. No D talk, no R talk just talking like the old days. She then told me that she always thinks to call me first...don't know what that means. As she pulled in her driveway, I told her good night and she thanked me again......I have no idea where this goes...yesterday she was screaming at me to file the divorce and that I am her sworn enemy....And tonight out of all the people she could have called she calls me....Go figure....