Hey handler... great to hear that you are doing work for yourself, you need to keep at it...
I tried Xanax once to quit smoking... took it for about a month and figured I was all good and could kick the habit... kept smoking for another five years... we have to keep at something if we want to get the job done...
It is (not) funny how if a we confront a best friend about some new love interest of theirs and that they romped in the hay, they are all so happy about it... and yet when the LBS finds out about it... not so much... She's mad 'cause she was busted, not because you were snooping... but the snooping sounds like a good reason for her to be mad...
When it comes down to D, here's the thing. Do YOU want the D? If not, then why would you do all the leg work? If SHE wants the D, wants a mediator scheduled, etc... Then SHE should be doing it...
If it comes up again, let her know that you will not try to stop mediation or D, but that you do not want D and will therefore not be the one to do the leg work. She'll probably get mad and do the leg work, and that's OK... It would have happened one way or the other...
So yes... settle in and work on YOU. Continue the 180s and GALing and become the man that only a foolish woman would leave...
