It's a LOT of words man.

Oh, and one sure way for them to be hesitant of your changes is for you to tell her you changed.

I sense that you got pretty excited about her initiating a little more contact and you overreacted. Pushed too much.

You can see by her reaction that you overwhelmed her.

All that said, never dwell in the past. Don't waste time worrying and analyzing every word. Think about it, and learn for the future.

You played college ball and won a national championship? That must take a LOT of confidence to play at that level.

(I secretly want to guess what team, I'm a football nut)

How did you see yourself when you were playing football?

How do you see yourself now?

Find the football player.

BITS

Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.