Hey there gang, have not posted an update for a while, there was nothing new to report actually until yesterday. So here it goes: Last week I was talking with the W, she has become insistant that I file for the D, I have told her that I don't want to. She keeps talking about getting out from under my control. I simply do not understand what that means....I told her I was willing to let things go on as they were until she works them out. After all the reading and therapy sessions, I think OM will fizzle out. However she makes it seem to me....(wishifull thinking I guess on my part) , that she needs to be fully divorced before she can even think about starting up with the new and improved OLW....Anyway I went an filed Thursday and paid for it. I called her and told her and she got mad that I did not pay for the name change. We had already talked about it and she agreed several months ago to keep the name she has until the youngest graduates...I told her what ever, if she wanted it she could pay. She was supposed to go down to the court and sign the 3 week waiver and pay the money to get her name changed. I do not know if she went down yet. I have to call the judges secratary on Tuesday and get a court date...It is that easy. So my friends, I will keep DBing and being the best father to my girls. I will be moving over to Surviving the Big D after it becomes final. I do lurk here daily and read all situations. I believe in my heart that I might be able to salvage my M sometime down the road, but I will not engage in R anymore. I have a friend that I work with whose W left him for a younger man almost three years ago and she just recently asked for another chance. I have read on here, 9's situation is a little different but appears she was wanting back...Several others as well..
So my DB friends I will keep hoping while ONE LESS WIFE becomes a better man for himself. I have owned all of my mistakes and can look myself in the mirrior and respect the guy that I see. Thanks for all of the support and guidence I have recieved....
