don't think I'll ever be able to trust him again because I don't trust that he loves me. Are we doomed??? Do I have to swallow all of my needs in order to make our marriage work? Do I pretend that I feel completely secure in him? Because I don't feel secure AT ALL. I think he's just hanging out here because it's the easier of the two options and I feel like I'm just the best he could do under the circumstances.
If you think you can--you will. And if you decide you can't -- you won't. It's up to you. What's your goal?
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Thanks Jack!!
Any suggestions on how to start this convo so that he'll actually HEAR me? I've tried to have conversations before and he will "listen" and then it all goes back to the way it has been. I'm guessing that I'm handling it all wrong....
In KLA we will help you learn to have these conversations. I'd encourage you to get the materials, it's only $25. You can go through it with us whether you have them or not, but Michele's examples are incredibly helpful. And you get to hear both partner's examples.
It may be great for your H to agree to do this with you.
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sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001
