What Now

[gr8 day 2B alive]

She's told my W that she should be in C too because she's a very unhappy person and that won't change until she can help herself.

Change has to be an internal decision. You W will never be unhappy untils she decides to make the change.

My final statement to my STBX was:
You need to go to IC if you would ever like my friendship in the future.
hard boundary, but it is in place and I enforce daily.

Listen to me???lol

I'm passing along what others have taught me.
I add personal experiences as they apply.

I do know one thing.

I think I am ready to let her go.

I have put in so much work over the last year to make myself a better person that I can now look in the mirror and be happy with who I see but also know that I did everything I could to try and save this M. If she wants to walk then there's the door.

Have her things packed and set them by the front door. Next time she gives you grief about anything show her the way.
I have seen this work.