We are not responsible for others happiness. appiness comes from within. The same goes for unhappiness. It's not you, it's her . She is deciding to be unhappy when youre around.
I just spoke with my IC and she said the exact same thing. My W is looking for others to make her happy when she should be finding it on her own.
My IC who also happens to be her sisters MIL knows exactly the type of person she is. She's a matyr and always plays the victim. She's told my W that she should be in C too because she's a very unhappy person and that won't change until she can help herself.
I do know one thing. I think I am ready to let her go. I have put in so much work over the last year to make myself a better person that I can now look in the mirror and be happy with who I see but also know that I did everything I could to try and save this M. If she wants to walk then there's the door.
There is a difference between knowing the path & walking the path. – Morpheus
