Thanks for your comment. You are right - although I am not always lost in thought, my mind almost always seems to be in "thinking" mode, instead of "feeling" or "doing." Feeling is actually a little scary for me, as it does not make clear sense nor is it under my complete control, as is thinking. And because I have difficulty processing feelings, when I let my feelings lead me I frequently lose control and then...well, bad things happen. Let me be clear, I am NOT physically abusive, but I can have a temper, and feel very ashamed afterward.
Your suggestions, (BE outside the box) and strategy are intriguing. I will have to spend some time thinking about that, to see if I can make sense of how to make that happen. I think it might be useful.
Think about it...if you met a potential mate who was nothing but a bundle of needs, would YOU be attracted to them?
