I had a thread in piecing but over the last two days we are no longer piecing.
W and I have been married close to 11 years. Last summer she had an EA that turned into a PA. I immediately felt betrayed and angry but did the usual crying, begging, and pleading.
She had made plans for a weekend getaway with OM and told her if she did and followed through then I would file, which I did. Then I discovered the book and the site and decided I want to save my M. DB'b my a$$ off and did a complete 180 from the H I was which she was unhappy with. Last week my IC even mentioned that in her 25 years of C that she has never seen someone that has done the complete 180 like I have.
In December my W mentioned that she wants to work on the M and we started MC. I heard her complaints which I knew what they were and had already corrected most of them.
Things were well for a while. And we withdrew the D.
I have been trying everything I can to try and make a better relationship for not only us a family but for us as a couple. My W has stated that she has been trying all along but I haven't seen any effort on her part. The only thing she did do was end her A but nothing more.
She finally told me last night that she has had enough and didn't want to try anymore. I didn't beg, plead or cry just listened and validated. Told her that I understood where she was coming from but I still didn't think divorce was the answer for us.
She told me that she would move out and we would have joint physical custody of our children. I didn't give her any answers and even told her I didn't want anyone to move out. This morning she changed her tune and called me every name in the book for putting her and the kids out on the street. She told me that when she said that she was testing me to see if I did the right thing by her and the kids and I be the one to move out.
Even though this is my second time around for this and I believe I am in a much better place personally to handle this it still hurts so much.
Is there any hope?
There is a difference between knowing the path & walking the path. – Morpheus