You are getting some very wise advice and you need to apply all of this to you. This isn't about her this is about saving you.
Right now you need to read posts from some of the vets on this board. You need to read about detatchment and dropping the rope. This isn't going to be easy and you must do it for yourself. Listen to the advice you get here and ask questions.
This isn't easy and it's a rough ride but it is worth your sanity.
Me 44 W 38 M 18 D 18 D 13 Bomb 10/21/2010 Divorced 7/19/2011 Just getting to the 7th inning!