I didn't think about this one very well, but I'm tempted to suggest a simple no-relationship talk over Messenger.
Hey Lonely, I like that you outlined the possible outcomes.....that is good.
You are prepared for the worst and are hoping for the best.
On the Messenger chat thing........I am not a fan.
And if the talk does turn to Relationship you are just going to come across and cold if you try to shut it down.
The other thing about electronic communication is that it can be mis-interpreted so easily.
Maybe you are not ready for face to face with her yet and I understand that, I just think the messenger is fraught with pitfalls.
The other thing that will happen is that you will obsess about everyword she types and read and re-read over and over again, taking your own perspective on how you think she was feeling as she typed the words.....
So much so that you will draw conclusions, make decision and act on something that you have spun up in your mind based on "in the moment" electronic communication.
How about a simple "hey how are you" via text or chat......do 5 minutes of that and cut it off saying you have to go and ask if she would like to have coffee sometime.....
Just a thought.
Cheers
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