My 180's H won't see cause he is not here and I have NC.
The one thing I learned from my friends here on this site was this...(which took me FOREVER to actually realize)
you make the changes for you and you alone! changing to get him back is just a tactic and not real change. Real change is for you. it makes you a better person - whether your H comes back or not.
TAMF m:41 xh:41 T: 20 M: 15 D: 16 D: 14 Bomb dropped: 7/3/10 separated: 7/15/10 H moved in to new apt. with OW: 7/1/11 divorced: 8/26/12
