From a superficial standpoint, it s*cks when someone sees me out with my friends and assumes I'm straying because they don't know what I've endured and what choices my W has made. Its the least of my concerns, but in my small town, superficiality rules and unfortunately may status in the community (I serve a couple non profit boards) suffers.
Crushed - this is hard for me too. I am an ED for a Symphony and I have an important role in my community that I take very serioulsy. The gossip that has gone around this past year makes me cringe. I want people talking about my organization - NOT ME. but people in small communities love gossip. I have no control over what others think, do or say. I only have control over my own actions. This is what I tell everyone who comes up to me and says,"guess what I heard!"
As time goes by, someone elses crisis will become the talk of the town and I will be left alone as old news.
TAMF m:41 xh:41 T: 20 M: 15 D: 16 D: 14 Bomb dropped: 7/3/10 separated: 7/15/10 H moved in to new apt. with OW: 7/1/11 divorced: 8/26/12
