DR is more like a manual for the work... DB is a great book as well.
You might find DR at your local library and if not, ask if they can get it in while you wait for your own copy...
Is she coming back from the states after the wedding?
In some situations, there is very little contact. Either initiated by the WAS or as a LRT (last resort technique) initiated by the LBS.
It is said that sometimes, absence makes the heart go stronger.
Now I understand there has been little contact and one never really knows what is going on with the WAS. While you may not want to consider it, there is the possibility that there is an A going on.
The WAS has many "canned" statements, such as "I Love You But I'm Not IN Love With You" (ILYBINILWY) or "were just too different" or "too little, too late" and any number of others that you'll hear about while you're here.
While there may be little contact, you still have an opportunity to make changes in yourself (FOR YOURSELF) that your W may notice during your rare contact, even if it's during D court.
These changes WILL be noticed by the WAS and the WAS might find them attractive or at least become curious about them... THAT is a step in the right direction, even if it's not the REASON to GAL, but rather a pleasant by product.
Whether it's getting a fresh, current wardrobe, to working out at a gym... Great things for your future and your W will notice.
Then there's the 180s. Things that are completely different than what you would normally do. Such as, if your W felt that you disagreed with her all the time, agree with her all the time. If you never showed emotion, show emotion. If you always brushed your teeth... well... keep brushing your teeth... it's good for you...
Hope some of that can help for now...
What kind of GAL or 180s do you think might be worth doing for yourself?
