Hey bling, just a thought...

You might want to go over and check another sitch which is opposite of yours...

In your case, you are the spouse who had the affair. Now I'm guessing you weren't a WAS, but only you know that...

See the following thread to see it from the LBS perspective and advice given to her on how to handle the WAS and the A:

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2170094