Sorry DG, but this sounds very "Jerry Springer" to me.

"Kick him to the curb!" "You go girl!"

Now, I understand her H f'd up. F'd up bad. Both the A, and his email.

But what I am also seeing is that there has been no clear boundaries discussed. There has been no attempt at MC.

Now confused, IF you want to give your M a chance here, these things need to be addressed.

It is not practical to think that after what has happened you can just coast back into a normal and happy M life.

This will take a LOT of work from BOTH of you. IF you chose to do so.

BITS

Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.