Frustrated with W not admitting OM

[Woodman]

Kaffe Diem gives wise counsel.
Your story is eerily like mine and many others on this forum. It's almost like all of our wives are reading from the same script. Unlike you, I confronted my wife with evidence of EA about a year ago. She tried to blow it off as just friends, someone to talk to. As KD said everything they say can be consiered a lie. My wife has told me 4 times now in the last year that it is nothing and not an affair and she will end it. But it is like crack and she is an addict. She keeps going back. I don't know if she will ever be able to kick this habit.
She has moved out of our home and filed for divorce and has the accelerator to the floor. You will find that there is nothing that you can say or do to control what she does and the harder she try, the faster she will run.
You have to make this about you. You have to survive. You have to take care of you because no one else will. You have to make yourself the man that only a fool would leave knowing that she could be foolish enough to never come back to you. As counterintuitive and as hard as it seems, you have to get to the point where you don't care if she comes back. That may be the only thing that will affect her trajectory.
Good luck.