You will only get this awareness after standing through much pain
Unfortunately, this statement is also truth.
The pain is caused by the resistance. If we "agreed" with the events in our lives we are dealing with, if we saw them as "good," we would not resist them, and there would be no pain.
I think for all of us, at some point, we simply get sick of the pain.
Why? We finally ask?
The realization is, it is not the actions of another person that is causing our pain, but our resistance to it.
Accept what is, and the pain begins to die.
There is a spiritual saying "die before you die."
The way I read this, is death, is our consciousness shedding itself of the mind, body, and all earthly possessions.
By detaching ourselves from those things before our physical body actually dies, by realizing our "self" is a consciousness separate from them, we are able to "die before we die." The ironic result, is it allows you to fully live.
I think there is a DB equivalent. I'll call it "divorce before you divorce."
Now this may sound like I am saying to "give up." Or that divorce is inescapable. Not at all.
I am saying accept what is, at this moment.
Shed yourself of your attachment with the event, and realize your "self" is not dependent on your M or your S. Your happiness is not dependent on your M or your S.
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This thing can break you or MAKE you.
See where you are today as when you came.
There is your peace. There is your proof.
Truth
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Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.
