Tell him you're worth more than being someone's second choice. Maybe eventually he'll realize that you *are*!

Then, maybe he will have the ability to truly commit to restoring your relationship.

Sounds like he has been suffering ano-cephalic transposition (I work in healthcare, what can I say?), and a large dose of consequences might result in an extraction of his head from the place where it seems to have been lodged.

Think about it...if you met a potential mate who was nothing but a bundle of needs, would YOU be attracted to them?