I can take that punch!

[Redo]

LITB, SF thanks for your feedback. Really appreciate it !

BITS need some feedback....or some 2x4's i guess

So it was 3~4 weeks back on a weekend we had this long R talk(i talked about it here on these forums). I started it. And yea we talked and talked. I got carried away and started talking on how i am now learning about boundaries.

It's funny as in how many people get 'boundaries' wrong. They think boundaries are some kind restrictions you place on others. Thats how my W thought too. Then i told her that boundaries to me meant that i let myself get depressed and down when she crossed some of them because i was passive aggressive, rather than talking it out with her. So i told her as to how, now I am more assertive and not being passive aggressive and how it was helping me. Then she says... "Yup, i had my boundaries too and you crossed them multiple times when i told you to be happy with what you had. But you chose to just get depressed and radiated it out which affected our family. That is when i decided to file for D because you crossed my boundaries"

That convo from her just took the wind out of me. I never looked at it that way. She actually used my whole 'look at me i am getting better with boundaries' stuff back on me

But on a more serious note, on multiple occasions i told her that her not being able to reconcile with my family was eating me up inside. But she just kept saying as how i must just accept things as they are for now.

I guess the question is: My W explanation of her boundary and her needing to file for D because i crossed it was correct, right?

I guess the 2x4 would be... "Stop digging your brain about old stuff!!"

Thanks!