Thanks for the reply!! I have asked him to send the OW a no-contact letter and he will not do it. He says our problem is that I expect to much from him. I just don't see it as expecting to much for him to tell the OW that he is completely finished with their relationship...it would make me a whole lot more secure in him. I have explained that to him and his response is "I really don't think it will make that much of a difference...you still will not trust me and you will still snoop" I think he sees it as controlling and he says that he will not be controlled.
I'm trying, but at what point do you keep putting up with things to save your marriage? I'm just not sure the best avenue to pursue on this. I mean he's living here and we are "married", but it's no different than it was before he moved out. He is still "confused" about what he wants although he says "I want to be here...if I didn't, I wouldn't be." However, he's doing nothing to make me feel like he really does want to be here. He doesn't want to do anything that will help reassure me. For instance, before he moved back in here, he would text me ALL DAY, but now I can hardly get him to text me at all. I'm just completely confused. I just don't understand why...
Do I tell him that if he cannot have complete transparency with me and completely end things with her that we are done? That's where I am right now!! Part of me just wishes he would go back to his sister's and leave me along....it's sooo frustrating.
Any help from the veterans out there would be greatly appreciated~~~
Me: 31 H: 30 Kids: D9 Together almost 12 years Married almost 5 years EA began: 8/10 Separated: 3/11
