XYZ is here longer than I ever imagined....

[XYZ]

I do, but I haven't told her. In my case, there's no affair. That would be an easy one for me. Our "stuff" was all so much less tangible.

I've been thinking a lot lately about what it is that I really need from her. Not symptoms, but root things. I think there are really one 2 things I need:

(1) to be the most important relationship in her life. That doesn't mean only relationship and it doesn't mean together all the time or anything like that. I just need to feel like I'm the most important.

(2) I need her to do what she says and if she can't, to just say so. I need to trust her when she says "I'll do ____" for too many years, I've (internally) rolled my eye and thought "no you won't"

That's it. Nothing more. I've been waiting for MC as a venue to discuss these and we see where that is....

Does this mean that 1 violation of these means I'm done? No. No effort towards working towards these? Yes.