FWIW, I saw an analogy here once between the wayward spouse and a little kid / parent situation. When a little kid runs for their parents and the parent chases them, it is fun. However, when the parent stops the chase, the kid will come back to the parent.
It sounds like you are getting fairly quick results from laying off the contact.
Keep an eye on the situation, though. One of the core points of DB'ing is "Do what works. Don't do what doesn't work".
