And the beat goes on...

[MadeToSucceed]

It was hard for me to wrap my head around the fact that W's XH, his W and her oldest son were supporting me in this sitch. The true meaning of forgiveness was shown by all 3 of them.

Today, nothing between W and me has changed. We've had a couple of R/M talks that have gone nowhere; she remains confused and conflicted. But thanks to my faith, my continued personal growth, the love of family & friends and great advice from people on this board I am not going to give up on my W or my M until I know it is time to stop. That time is not yet here.

I think it is a true blessing that your W's XH, his wife and oldest son support you in this. I don't think I'd be able to wrap my head around it either. In my sitch, my IL started out seemingly supportive but are now to the point where I'm basically dead to them and they wish to have nothing to do with the sitch from my end. You should be thankful for the fact that you have some people in your life that have not only forgiven you for your past but have recognized your present. Use that as a small victory that you can build on.

I haven't read your entire story but I think I saw something where you were debating possibly moving back in and/or sleeping in the same bed again. I did that. And in my sitch and sent my W off the deep end. She called the police (who basically told her they could do nothing) and then ultimately hired a lawyer and had in the petition for divorce that she wanted me out of the house.

As someone else pointed out to you, you have to think about why are you REALLY considering it? When I look back, I know I only did it for me. I did it for my ego. I did it to prove a point. And it got me nowhere fast. I didn't feel any better and it just fueled my W rage and gave her more reason to rationalize something as "my fault." They may not happen to you but I just wanted to share my similar experience in that regard. You sound like you're doing well all things considered. You should be proud of that.