I am new to this myself and have only had one session with a coach. I have to buy the book but I am going through the same exact thing right now. I was rude to my wife for many years. Never physical abuse or drunkeness, but just nasty at times, because of my big mouth. We went to some good counseling and some real bad.
I do know that I was doing everything wrong. I was mad, and trying to induce guilt, pleading, begging and all the things that make things worse. Now I am trying to be humble and at the least I am getting along with her now. She asked me the other night if I am seeing anyone.
It's funny that people leave for many of the same reasons whether they live in Australia or down here in the Southeast of the U.S.A. I know how awful that you feel. You might want to try a coaching session.
Doggreensector
"Someday we may look back on this and decide that Saving Private Ryan was the one decent thing we were able to pull out of this whole godawful mess."
