I know you so want to believe them...then nothing. you know what...you shouldn't trust your wife. You aren't ready to and she hasn't shown the ability to do it.
maybe she will never be able to follow through her words with actions and you have to decide what you can live with.
You want her to call and set up the MC, right? it will show you she's serious right? Are you willing to chuck it all if she doesn't.
My advice. Take it out of her hands. Just ask for the contact make the appt. set up the arrangements for the kids, etc. I mean you will be working with this person too, so it is appropriate that you at least talk to the MC. Heck, you might even get the contact and talk to them about this very issue before setting up an MC appt.
But, I wouldn't forget this. I mean this kind of issue is ripe for exploring in an MC session -that's where it will really be dealt with. But you will never get there if you don't make the appt.
Maybe she has reasons for delaying .... other than not working on the marriage. With my W, I know that because she works in the mental health field getting her to go to MC or and IC was incredibly difficult. I mean she encouraged me to go. I've been to 3 different therapists and the MC during this whole ordeal. My W - 0 IC sessions (I still don't think she set up her IC appt)
I know it is tough for her to open up about her issues and the M issues. I mean she is used to hearing bout other peoples problems all day long. She knows the drill, but I think that makes her even more reluctant to open up to a therapist about her own.
It's embarrassing, it's scary, it's hurtful and now she probably thinks of you in a good light and might be worried about changing that in MC.
You guys are pretty fragile right now, maybe she's worried MC will upset that balance. It takes a leap to go to MC, I really think it does.
but you won't know anything until you do. She needs to be reminded of that. You making the appt will do that, in my opinion.
Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet. --Jean Jacques Rousseau.
