I also treated my H badly and up until recently, beat myself up for it continuously.
A couple things stick out for me when I read your posts:
- you seem to be basing ALL of your happiness on whether or not your M will survive this. I know it's consuming you, like it's consuming all of us.
- are these changes for you or for your H? Of course we want out S's to notice our changes, but as it is has been pointed out to me, DB is really about saving yourself. If you change only for your H, it won't work.
Like I said, these are only observations on my end. I just want you to be the most successful person you can be.
"Everyone you meet has baggage. Find someone who loves you enough to help you unpack." ¤Formerly DelinquentGurl¤