Going, going, my wife's gone!

[DoggySector]

I have been married for 10 years where there has been alot of arguing and bickering. My wife and I have an 8 year old boy with mild to moderate autism. He's a great kid. We lived in Southern California for the first 7 years of our marriage. My wife wanted to move to her home state the entire time that we lived in California. When I finally agreed to move to the South East so my wife could be near her family things went from bad to worst. She began spending alot of time with her sister who has never cared for me and my wife became angry, critical and bitter saying that she hated our marriage and she started to say that she wanted a divorce last September,saying that I never helped her with our son (not true) and that our marriage was a "farce."She said taht she never felt cherished. I tried to become the nice guy which seemed to help a little at first but my wife seemed argumentative all the time and more blaming. She sought out the advice of a female Pastor who told my wife that if I didn't attend the Church tthat I was in denial and that my wife should immediately leave me. Along with this her sister encouraging my wife to leave me. About two months ago my wife announced that she wanted a divorce. I then again became the nice guy and she said two weeks later that she had changed her mind and wanted to work it out if I went to a counsleor alone.

About two weeks later my wife had read an email that I had sent to a mutual friend saying that I wish that my wife didn't have such a bad temper and she blew up and started to scream that she wanted a divorce. She filed divrce and wants me to sign the paperwork now. She has since signed up for a singles website and has several online relationships with other men. I have been very mad and told her off and told her that she is nothing but a women on the make.I finally called DB and spoke to a coach and that has helped in that we no longer argue but i am no closer getting back with her and her sister really doesn't like me at all and tells my wife that if she even thinks of getting back with me that she will disown her. My wife blames me for all the problems in the marriage and that I am the blame that we fougght all the time. I will admit that I was notthe easiest person in the world to get along with and there have been times of financial instability due to the busines that I was in but that is over in that I changed careers and got a fairly decent size inhertiance. Please advise. My wife wants me to signt the final divorce papers and said that there is absolutely no hope that we will ever get bhack together. She knows it is going to be hard for her financially but doesn't care.