Its funny because many times I think I convince myself that I want to avoid the doing/working part of it, but that is actually where so much happiness lies.
Well, I suppose some might argue that the "being" is where the happiness lies...
One thing you might try to pay attention to is "stinking thinking" - like where in your head are you getting stuck?
I have thoughts like "This relationship will always be hard work."
"I'll never have enough money."
"I can't get this debt paid off" and so forth.
Things trigger the fears.
Maybe her leaving the cable bill for you triggered something? Upset you? Stirred stuff up?
Try to pay attention. Write them down. Then do some focus wheels (A-h explains) or even some Byron Katie "Is it true?"
So much has changed in my life when I started changing my thinking (fears) and started allowing other possibilities then what I had already sort of figured out would or might happen
