Thanks all for the feedback. It's good to be back and have y'all keeping me in check.
Microsoft, pizza joints and chicken suits aside, aren't we all here because we've locked on to a singular decision we made about one woman/man in sickness, health, etc.? In the context of a M, committing to decision is critical. Or else none of us would have had the fortitude to stick it out through the shizzit storm. Upon hearing the bomb, I could have walked because my sitch changed, but I committed to a choice I made 12 years ago.
I know we constantly need to adapt, improvise, overcome in life (channeling Clint in Heartbreak Ridge), but does it apply to our Ms?
I am afraid that the moment I stop working toward the goal of getting my W to counseling sans OM, then I will have quit (which I don't accept well).
From a superficial standpoint, it s*cks when someone sees me out with my friends and assumes I'm straying because they don't know what I've endured and what choices my W has made. Its the least of my concerns, but in my small town, superficiality rules and unfortunately may status in the community (I serve a couple non profit boards) suffers.
