Can I save my marriage? (long; please be patient)

[MadeToSucceed]

Makes perfect sense. And in a sense I can't go back to some of those things I was when we met because at the time I was just an immature 19 year old kid in college but I get what you're saying.

I've done some internal digging and tried to get back to the root of some of who "I am." In other regards, I'm also just at a different phase in life where many of the superficial things that once mattered to me don't anymore.

But I think I understand fully what you're saying. I definitely don't want to come off as manipulative and that is certainly not my intent. There are changes I've made and want to continue to make, not just to "get her back" but because they are the right thing to do and they will make me a better person.

The one thing I'm pretty confident of is that the people that actually have her ear are probably trying to convince her that these "changes" are temporary. It is always good to have sound counsel around you and I just can say she has that right now...her family included. She's "living the life" right now so to speak and with her being so far away and basically not giving a damn about what is going on in my world, it's hard for her to "see" for herself on a daily basis and be able to actual judge the situation.