Can My Marriage Be Saved, Pt 2

[a girl]

Feeling a bit better now. Still occasionally get hit by what feels like a punch in the stomach, but I'm getting my sea legs, I guess.

Jody was really good - she gave me a lot to think about and work on. Number one is that it's ok to set boundaries - it's ok to say "You can't do that in my house, and you can't be in my house while you do that." It was really helpful to be reminded that I don't have to allow anyone to disrespect me.

She also reminded me that anger at H just causes guilt, and feeling bad around me highlights how good he feels around OW.

So, with that in mind, I'm going to be friendly and cordial. I was all last night, and it went pretty well. It will be hard, but I think it will be worth it.

She told me not to think about if I want to reconcile or not - I'm not there yet. She said Step 1 is just coming to terms and living life as a single person with a child. Step 2 is finding a way to friendship with him, and the end of Step 2 is a crossroads - which I don't have to worry about just yet.

She was pretty convinced that his relationship won't work out, but that's not the point right now. Right now it's about being cordial and pleasant, but not letting him walk over my boundaries.