Sure, I get what you mean by it being a flaw... let me put it to you another way...
Wanting to "fix" your wife is not a flaw. You love her... You want her to be well, and happy, and all those things that we all want for our spouses... that's human... and of course, you want to "fix" her so that she'll decide to stay with you... that's normal, as well.
While it's semantics, wanting your W to be happy and stay with you is natural.
Here's the thing, because it could be seen and done in a manipulative way, and that is not so good.
The two of you liked each other, once. She fell in love with you... Leopards don't change their spots, although they might fade over time a bit...
Who were you back when you met your W? When you were courting her? How have you "changed"? (You may need to dig to figure that out) And what can you do to be that person again and then be so much more...?
