The only quibble I have with your assessment is that I'm not like that about everything.

I hate to go back to this but running. I want to run PRs and run races and win awards. I have to wait for that. I have to put the work in that isn't coming to me.

Most material things I do that to. I rarely have to "have it now" In fact, I have a little self imposed rule that I wait on it for a day or so and if I go back and I really want it. I'll buy it.

At work, I don't expect our legal assistant to drop everything to the stuff I ask her. I let her do it on her own time frame (within limits)

With this...I guess you could say there is a sense of entitlement. (But I am used to her defying me :-))

I always think about something you said to someone else

something effect that anyone would walk on fire (coals, etc) for their spouse, if they knew they'd be on the other side.
But would they still walk on the fire, if there was no guarantee they'd be on the other side?

24-hrs from Monday eve to yesterday eve was bad. I got caught too much in what my IC said. She was doing what my family friends would do.

My W gave me some advice on how to deal with this. I need my IC to challenge me more and tell her it's okay to do so.

That's why i like your advice and think you'd be great at this. You have no problem challenging me or X or anyone. There are a lot of people here like that and I see that as a huge value to this site.

today is much better.

Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet.
--Jean Jacques Rousseau.