Just said a prayer for you too DG. I know this is gonna sound weird, but be glad things are hard for your H right now. Would you prefer that leaving you and abandoning your S be easy for him? At least he has a conscience (even if its underdeveloped)...some don't have any.

Still, you are absolutely right, it does not compare to the agony he is causing others...in that, he is being selfish.

I know the pain you are in. Its especially hard because as long as the past five months have felt, the road ahead seems even longer. I wish we could give each other strength to get through this.

Me: 35
Him: 43
Together: 19 1/2 years
1st Bomb (IDLYAM): March 2011
2nd Bomb (OW): April 2011
He abandons home/bills/everything: May 2011
He's bought a new house for OW: September 2011