I'm off to see The Wizard

[Chances]

I'm sorry today is a tough morning for you. Can you find a way to pamper yourself without breaking the budget? Something you have right at home? You certainly deserve it. You have come so far, and these setbacks on anniversary days are to be expected I suppose. I know that I personally have learned so much from you since I have been here. Hang in there today. Knowing that the feeling is temporary and I will feel better again always seems to help me in times like this.

[Telemark]

DG, you have been a great inspiration to me, and a lot of others here. I so empathize with you about what you are feeling, but your strength and determination show in each post; you are going to come out on the other side of this as one remarkable woman (not that you weren't before...)

You are a catch; someone only a fool would leave. As I see it, regarding our S's:

their loss.

[Brian in Hville]

We love you DG

Brian

[alamo76]

D-Girl - I don't chime in often enough on your threads, but I do check in from time to time. Just want you to know that I'm saying a prayer for you right now; I still retain hope that your life (as well as ours) will right itself real soon, with or without our spouses.

[a girl]

I'm sorry it's hard for you right now. This is one of those things that only time heals, so although the passage of time is painful, it's also healing.

[~¤DG¤~]

A little update about my post yesterday.
H did txt S10 back, all he said was "I'm not avoiding you, it's just hard."
WTF?
It's hard for him? Try being a 10 year old boy feeling abandoned by his SD! Man that makes me angry.

I sent him a txt today that said:

Are you planning on giving me some money for the cell this month? I think your contract is up so let me know if you want to go on your own plan.
Also, when do you plan on coming to get the rest of your things? I need to know so I can find another stand for the tv. S10 has been trying to contact you, he really misses you. At least let him know you still care about him.

The last part I sent before I knew he had answered him.
I feel sick to my stomach because I DON'T want this to be the end of us, but I also don't want to keep storing all of his things if he doesn't plan on returning.

[jbnati]

DG, It really sux when the kids get hurt in our situations. I feel bad for your S10, and I definitely understand your frustration.

Was your text sent in anger? How much of a 180 is this for you? Is it possible your H could be testing you and expecting a particular response?

I would characterize this as situational anger, as opposed to the long term anger you had been harboring. I want to give you credit for your growth.

[~¤DG¤~]

I'm angry about him ignoring my S, but I don't feel like it was sent in anger.

I doubt he's testing me. We haven't seen or spoken or anything since May.

[AloneAt35]

Just said a prayer for you too DG. I know this is gonna sound weird, but be glad things are hard for your H right now. Would you prefer that leaving you and abandoning your S be easy for him? At least he has a conscience (even if its underdeveloped)...some don't have any.

Still, you are absolutely right, it does not compare to the agony he is causing others...in that, he is being selfish.

I know the pain you are in. Its especially hard because as long as the past five months have felt, the road ahead seems even longer. I wish we could give each other strength to get through this.

[a girl]

DG - It's somehow worse when they hurt the kids. At least my pain I know I had a part in - I'm responsible for the part I played in creating a marriage that he wanted to leave/cheat on. But my S hasn't done anything - it hurts me so much more to see him paying for the mistakes H & I have made/are making.