Yes, thank you, Kaffe. I keep saying "rescuing," when it's actually "enabling."
Folks love to point out (usually motivated by fear of making the tough choices) that "it's not my place to issue consequences to my wayward spouse; LIFE does that."
It's one of those "DB forum truisms" that get thrown around, without much introspection.
However, often these very same people aren't just not issuing consequences themselves, but they're actively doing things to SHIELD their wayward/walkaway spouses from the consequences of their OWN decisions.
