Can I save my marriage? (long; please be patient)

[MadeToSucceed]

KD and jbnati - Thank you both. Sorry for the overload. It's just been a lot at once and I was trying to give as much info as possible to help folks maybe assess the situation. I'll do my best to start condensing.

I agree about trying to not push my faith on her. It's tough but I know it is necessary.

Today she is traveling and didn't bother to message me before taking off or letting me know where she's headed. I saw her BBM (BlackBerry Messenger) status saying she was headed to Monaco. It also said "Reunited and it feels so good!" Of course this could be her just being excited about being back in Monaco but my mind is wondering if OM is going there since he asked her about it a month ago.

The other tough part is she and I went there together last summer so there are the memories.

I think I'm going to do my best to refrain from contacting her today. I definitely don't want to pressure her but it is extremely tough for me to just remain silent. Is there harm in me continuing the every-other-day contact if it's just in the form of "How are you doing?" and not R or M talk? She's been receptive thus far but the toughest part is while that kind of sparse communication is OK for her, it really isn't for me. I just feel like I'm sending out a questionnaire repeatedly and she's filling it in with responses but there is no depth to the convos unless I provide it. I'm also going to start re-reading DR today and see if I can get some more perspective from it.