I hear ya MHL. I've thought about it many times. If I had "succeeded" in saving my marriage at any point prior to the actual end (which some might say technically hasn't happened yet because we're not legally divorced) I would not be the woman I am now.
Tactics were my MO prior to the bomb. I was manipulative, controlling and insecure. If I had saved my marriage with tactics it would have reenforced the very behavioural patterns that had contributed to the situation. The tactics had to FAIL in order for me to finally see through my own rightousness.
I find this stuff facinating
PEI
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
