She seems to do that stuff an awful lot. Next time say that you aren't able to make it, already have something scheduled for yourself. She is leaning on you and isn't really feeling the "oh, I am divorced. I can't keep calling ex for everything". yet. Right now, I get the impression she thinks she can call you and you will be there at the drop of a hat.
I can see helping out on occassion byut it is like she is setting this stuff knowing that she is going to have to ask for help. Sorry if I am off base.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory