My in laws want to retire, move to our state, and buy the house across the street. They met with the agent today and seemed excited. W asked what I thought and I was honest - I have concerns. Mostly, my concern is that my W is a hard-driving take charge type of person so at home and at work (we work at the same place) so me, and my more laid back personality, often end up taking a back seat. In the past this has affected me and contributed to the problems my threads are full of. Her family is big, fun, and sometimes overwhelming and when they are around my W runs the show even more than usual. I explained that having them across the street would mean I would have no control over the family schedule, no chance to be the strong husband or leader she says she wants......I'd just fade into the background.
W thinks this is ridiculous. And if it is a problem I should just get over it, man up, speak up, and make demands. Which, I've learned is great, right up until the point we have a difference of opinion. I could do this - and frankly, I'll probably HAVE to do this - but it is exhausting.
It is exactly the thing that started our problems and I WILL NOT go back to that place again.
I mean, move to our town. ok. move into our community. ok. across the street? come on!
anyone with any experience with close at hand in laws????
