I think I'm done.

[ericmsant2]

Crushed,

What is "done"? Really what is it? IMO, it is a "label" that really means something different for each person.

For example: Person A may say they are "done" tolerating behavior towards them that is unhealthy.

Person B may say they are "done" and move on BY THEMSELVES in their life.

Person C may say they are "done" and move on with someone else.

Person D may say that they no longer can emotionally allow the MLCer into their space.

My point is being done is something that you yourself define for YOU. It is not my definition....it is yours.

Aren't we conditioned to make choices and stick to them?

let me ask you a question....if you invest 10,000 in Microsoft stock and say to yourself that you will stay invested no matter what...a week later the market takes a dive, new reports suggest that you get out of stocks and into US Treasuries. What do you do?

Do you stick with Microsoft or do you move the money?

My point, is that sitch's change and MEN know when and how to adapt to each change. The old Eric was a stubborn hard headed person that would have said the same thing you said..."I can't change my mind"....Crushed you can!

Let me give you a personal example.....

My STBXW....I no longer want to be in a R with her...at any level, she is damaged. That is HOW I FEEL TODAY....do you think I know how I will feel in 5 years, 10 years, 3 days, 2 months? I don't...I also know that I will always do what is in the best interest of my children and myself. IF what is best for me in the future is to be with my wife, well then I will change my mind.

Another consideration.....

You expected your w to accept your changes....as did I....she didn't...at least not NOW...does that mean that she will not in the future? Who knows? If you were single and she was "healed" and out of her crisis....would you want her to say to herself...I made a choice...and I must stick to it? probably not.

The choice IMO, that you should make and never waver is....

To be the man that your kids can look up to...

To be a man that you are proud of.

God Bless.
Eric

Sorry it took me so long to respond...I was having a long talk with my oldest son....a deep conversation about his girlfriend. Crushed, I think he made a choice a year ago to distance himself from me. Guess what? I am glad he did not "stick to his choice"...I love him and my other two more than life itself...I am so glad....

I am his model....


Be the model to your kids....be the example to them....

Never let PRIDE and ANGER drive your choices...

Peace Brother....

Love ya man!