Welcome back! Glad it was great, and you sound great too! I LOVE this post. This is how I feel all the time. It's a relief to be without BF and sad as I am that things aren't working and we have a D together, that energy is just draining and exhausting me. I too am looking for that same kind of present and accepting R. I think appreciating it in others is a great trait and will allow it to come to you more easily (at least according to Abraham-Hicks :)) ...

I'm getting certified to life coach and the book I am reading now (by Martha Beck) talks about the social self and the essential self and basically coaching encourages that essential self - sounds smart to take that really seriously and not fight it as you said...