Thanks guys, you are right, but so much easier said than done.

Ex-P called around five to give me the warning about switching the utilities and at 10:00PM I see my phone has been shut off. Five hours notice...or no notice at all. Just like my health insurance...he called to tell me he was dropping me after it had already been done. Thanks Ex-P, thanks a lot. I guess that its my gold watch for 20 years of faithful service.

Every moment is sink or swim. I'm looking at my paycheck and sinking.

Me: 35
Him: 43
Together: 19 1/2 years
1st Bomb (IDLYAM): March 2011
2nd Bomb (OW): April 2011
He abandons home/bills/everything: May 2011
He's bought a new house for OW: September 2011