Hey there. Can sort of relate to your situation. I've been noticing that the more I go dark and get a life, the more I can see my wife is disappointed I'm moving on.
Last night I asked if she comes into our house to see me and my bedroom door (formerly our bedroom door) is closed, to please send me a text or something instead of knocking and opening the door. For my own privacy, and she can tell I'm starting to get ready to see other people. She made a frowny sad face when we acknowledged that was one of the reasons she shouldn't just barge in. I'm like "oh don't start, you don't like me anymore remember". She replies "yeah but I like you more and more each day". This makes sense to me because I've been figuring out attraction and being masculine and stuff (skills I lacked previous to our crisis). But at the same time I'm starting to see all the options I have and have been having fun just getting the hang of meeting and talking to random woman. Of course, the better I get at it the more my wife flirts with me - I do my best to pretend I don't notice.
Weird thing is she insisted I was a totally messed up person and ruined our marriage 100% on my own, at first I believed her, I worked to become a better person, and now I think she's more messed up than I am! Cruel life indeed.
