HELP! Tried the 180/Last Resort & Failed - PART 2

[a girl]

Thanks for understanding A Girl, but aren't I just shooting myself in the foot when I act this way?

If things EVER end with OW, I want to be in the position to at least reconcile our friendship. When I am cold and angry, don't I diminish that likelihood?

I think so - which is why I advocate going dark. If he has OW, why should he get the pleasure of your company? How can you work on you, heal, become whole, if you keep being torn apart by him every day?

Going dark is for you - it's to protect you and let you heal. I'm 2 weeks out until I can (H is hopefully moving out Aug 1), and I can't wait to be given the gift of not having to deal with him anymore.