I understand your perspective Seminole.
It isn't my intent to keep the kids from him or even prevent the visit.
For me the significance is I recognized the feelings that were going to cause me to react rather than act consciously to give an answer, had I not stepped back. That's why I listed my feelings to PEI's question.

This is progress for me.

Ultimately it will be up to my kids if they want to go with their Dad in lieu of being with me this weekend.

I did notice something funny though. When I read your words on me being percieved as an evil B rhymes with witch, the first thought that popped into my head was: " As if I care what he thinks anymore."

Is it detachement? Or is it that I finally have internalized something I have been saying to myself for a long time: " What you think of me is none of my business."


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Me-51, WAS-52
Kids 2
M-26yrs, H.left 2009, 2 more Bomb drops, Reconnection spring 2013
Change is inevitable, personal growth is a choice.
Love is a action and choice you make, every day.