"I wanted to know how to fix my relationships with friends and family members."
just start. pick one and just lay it out there, tell the truth no matter how ugly it is. own your responsibilities and allow them to decide how to respond.
if it fixes that relationship, great, move on to another. if not, then thats ok too.
but what you dont want to do is wait, make your own opportunities.
"In a ham and eggs breakfast, the hen is involved, but the pig is committed".