Can I save my marriage? (long; please be patient)

[MadeToSucceed]

Still journaling some.

I woke up with a heavy heart. I prayed and listened to some gospel music in my office trying to clear my head some. I called and talk to my parents in hopes of finding some comfort. I was wrestling with whether or not I should contact her because I knew she had a race today but wasn't sure what time or anything because she had not contacted me at all yesterday and I didn't contact her either. I finally decided it was best that I stay true to myself and reach out to her via text. Our conversation went as follows:

Me: I think you compete today but I'm not really sure. I'm praying for you and your health and want you to know I believe in you. I know you'll do great. No response to my message is requested or required. I know you've expressed concern over some things on the track but just do your part. That's all you can ever do. Galatians 6:9 Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up. Deuteronomy 31:6 Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lord your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Have a wonderful day.
Vet: I've been a little nervous about the race..But I decided before bed last night to let go. And OWN IT!
Me: I can see how you would be nervous but I think you have the right attitude about it.
Vet: Yea
Me: Don't forget that you've been here and done that. You got this.
Vet: And had a rough practice the other day. But its all good.That's before I let go.
Me: Right. That's practice. That's what it is for.
Vet: Yep
Me: I didn't want to keep or distract you. Like I said, you didn't have to respond. Just wanted you to have some encouragement, both from me and the word and know I'm behind you 110%

I've been avoiding "snooping" so I haven't been checking phone records, emails, twitter or facebook lately so that I wouldn't find anything I didn't want to see. Unfortunately, a mutual friend of ours quoted something that the OM said and it popped up on my Twitter timeline...he was basically wishing my W and the mutual friend well in their race today. The mutual friend quoted what OM said and thanked him. I don't think she knows about the A. The only way OM could know to wish them well is by my W and OM having convo still and my W mentioning that she was running today...so I guess it's safe to assume they still are in contact.

I have not brought up OM to W since she's been gone (she left for Europe on July 6th) and don't intend to now either. In June, W mentioned OM was asking about coming to Europe to see her at a meet and with OM being in the NFL, I guess it would be nothing for him to pay for a flight. Supposedly that was going to be this coming weekend but W and I never discussed it again.

It's just tough because even when I make it a point to avoid all of that stuff intentionally for my own sanity, it finds me somehow. Now I'm back wondering if I should have ever contacted her in the first place or if I should continue to just control me and not worry about everything else. I am leaning heavily on my faith here so I pray continually for the restoration but just have trouble making sense of it all. I doubt I'm going to message her anymore today unless she reaches back out to me but I just don't know what to do.